Anyway, cleared my brain by watching the wonderful film "Thirteen Conversations about one thing", unfortunately released within a few days of 911. A number of characters consider what it is that makes for a good life (hint: it's not chasing happiness). John Turturro plays an emotionally distant but passionately self-absorbed professor, Clea Duvall plays a sunny housecleaner who wants to go to Greece. She's the character with the escaping white shirt. The two characters never meet, but all the stories are connected.
Edit: If you've read this far, and if you have a DVD player that can accommodate an old school video tape, and if you're in the U.S., let me know if you'd like me to send tape on to you after Mina at the flower store finishes watching it -